Remember the time when you undressed in front of your spouse and talked seductively? What happens when that time is something of the past, and you find yourself telling your spouse that you aren't in the mood for sex? Don’t worry, you’re not alone.
There are plenty of others that have a major decrease in libido due to work and stress. If you are the spouse who wants to rekindle your sex life, below are 10 tips that will help.
1. Deal With the Stress
Stress is the number one cause of low libido. Stop stress from being a part of your life by tackling it head on. Some people can de-stress by exercising, and others need to meditate or practice yoga to relieve stress. If you don’t rectify the stress now, it will get out of control fast. Gossiping at work, kids’ college bills, loans – prioritize what it is stressing you out, deal with what you can and ask for help with the things that you can’t deal with. Meeting stress head on develops a positive outlook and makes you feel good. This makes you more attractive and sexual to your partner.
2. Hugging and Touching
All touch doesn't have to lead to sex. Let your partner give you a massage, or hug your partner as often as you can. The contact of touching boosts oxytocin levels and makes you feel more relaxed with your partner.
3. Get Kinky
Call or text your partner and talk dirty during work breaks. Hint around at what awaits him or her after work. This type of perceived stimuli works great leading to good sex.
4. Stuffing the Stomach
Avoid eating large meals when you plan to have sex. Always plan to eat at least one hour before sex so that you don’t feel lethargic and overstuffed in bed.
5. Whispering Sweet Seductions
Try whispering seductively to your partner about romantic experiences, desires, sexual turn-ons, sexual experiments or what you want to do to him or her. Whatever comes to mind, go for it!
6. Light Up The Room
Light up the room with candles and lights while playing some soft, romantic music to create a sensual mood. Give your lover a nice back massage to de-stress him or her after a hard day of work.
7. Take A Shower Together
Bathing or showering together is a fantastic way to pump up the sex drive. Try some creative bathing ideas like filling your bathroom with soothing scents and candles or diving in the tub full of bubbles together.
8. Caressing Each Other
Caressing each another is powerful enough to turn each other on. When you kiss your partner, use your hands to caress his or her back, neck, ear lobes and other body parts to put them in the mood for sex.
9. Role Playing
Arouse your partner by being flirty. Do you have a sexual fantasy you have wanted to engage in for a while? Now is the time to share this fantasy with your lover and have a good time role-playing.
10. Socializing With Peers
Believe it or not, the more you interact with peers, the better your chances are of jump starting your libido again. When you socialize with peers, you feel young again. This gives you those feelings and desires you had when you were younger in your relationship.
By following some of the above tips, you can be sure to rekindle your sex life and start having fun in the bedroom again!